You all know about the contest, sponsored by Babeland Seattle that is running here on Bonne Vie.  If you don’t, here’s the link.  We’re closing entries at the end of the week, so hop to!

In the meantime, I started thinking about the response to the contest and I started to wonder – where’s the love, when it comes to sex positive posts?  It seems like every so often, someone runs a little blurb on the Lelos,  a contest announcement, and when we’re lucky, someone comes out and speaks truth about themselves and their experience in a very revealing and courageous way. Besides this handful of people, not many folks talk about the thing we all do.  There are people who don’t condone “kissing and telling”, and there are people who dish out details to their closest friends, but in this big bad blogworld, sex seems un-stylish.

(Burlesque is sex positive, but isn’t un-stylish – just look at those costumes!)

Maybe we fear a backlash of spam comments and emails.  We don’t want to be called tart, harlot, whore, or deviant.  We recoil from the media raunch-hype Cosmo puts out (sorry, Cosmo, but really…), or maybe we’re talking to an audience that might include our mothers.  Some people feel that “Birds and Bees” conversations are awkward – which can lead to later awkwardness in dealing with sex.  Others feel like sex is made out to be something it’s not.  Many just don’t bring it up – quite possibly because sex is not talked about in a positive personal way.  Whatever the case, we all have good reasons to not indulge in talking about one of our most primal instincts; however, the propensity to not talk about sex only makes the situation more awkward.  If we are to overcome our barriers and become comfortable with our bodies and our sexuality, we are going to have to address sex at some point.

Sex can be a very positive action.  Whether it’s working in a sex-positive environment, dressing like a fox, or having 8 boyfriends – I want to know your experience.  By talking about it, we are slowly lowering taboos related to how we should feel about our bodies and our sexuality.  Do it.  Talk about it.  Tell us!

As Jaka said:

We talk about dressing sexy, feeling sexy, being sexy, but never about sex?  What the hell kind of sense does that make?  So, our mission is to break down those taboos and get you hot and bothered sistas chatting about gettin’ nasty!  After all, what’s the point of having all those fine clothes and fine lines if you don’t share (with yourself or others)?

I’ll be touching on this subject (hurr) every so often and I encourage your feedback.  A little birdie told me that there are others out there who will also be talking about sex from time to time, and I’ll proudly support them – especially by telling you where to find that information.  Bonne Vie is a blog about the good life – and a good lifestyle includes a little lovin’, you know!

p.s. For editing purposes, the original password was “bewbs”.  You’ll notice this post isn’t password protected now… but just FYI….

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