Guest Post By Kate Harrison founder of The Green Bride Guide
Smell is a potent sense, especially when it comes to memory. Memories can be tied to a particular smell, whether it’s pecan pie and Thanksgiving dinner at your grandmother’s, or the smell of your father’s favorite cologne. Whatever the smell and memory, these two together can elicit some of your fondest times year after year.
Incorporating particular smells into your wedding celebration can form brand new scent associations for your friends and family. Just think about it. Whenever you smell thyme or lavender, you can remember sitting at the head table next to your new life partner or dancing with your father.
If you have a favorite herb, like mint or basil, you can make that the focus of your wedding. Otherwise, you can create an herb smorgasbord and relish the rich, fresh scent of the garden as you and your guests celebrate and remember the happiest day of your life. Here are a few ideas on how to make your wedding smell absolutely delicious:
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Herbs are beautiful living plants and they work well in a bouquet, as an accent to the flowers, or as the main event. Consider incorporating a few tall lavender sprigs or some baby’s breath to add some color to the ensemble. The best part? After the wedding, your bouquet will bring its delicious fragrance to your home for weeks. You can even save the dried herbs to use in your favorite recipes
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Give your guests potted herbs as favors that they can take home and plant, or use right away, straight from the pot. Include an instruction card if the herbs you choose are choosy (i.e. they need a specific amount of light, extra water, etc.). Many farms will sell sprouted herbs in bulk so you don’t have to start your seeds from scratch.
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Unify your theme by using the same herbs in your cocktails that you give as favors. Mint is particularly delicious in alcoholic beverages. Mojitos are refreshing rum-based drinks with sugar, lime, and fresh muddled mint. These are perfect for a hot summer wedding!
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Incorporating your favorite herbs into your cuisine is easy—think rosemary chicken or pesto pasta. Ask your caterer about getting herbs from a local garden and make sure they’re organic.
About the Author: Kate Harrison
GBG’s CEO, Kate L. Harrison, has a JD in Environmental Law and a Master’s from Yale in Environmental Policy. She planned her own green wedding in 2007 and wrote the bestselling green wedding book The Green Bride Guide: How to Plan an Earth-Friendly Wedding on Any Budget (Sourcebooks, 2008). In 2009, she founded www.greenbrideguide.com to help couples use their weddings to promote social and environmental change and supports the local green economy.
I realized this morning, that I have several folders of outfit photos that never quite made the cut onto my site. I’m sure a lot of readers and bloggers have a backlog of decent, or even great outfits, that never see the internet. Quelle travesty, right? These images are from about a year ago, and it’s interesting to look at it and take note of how my style has evolved over the last year. Also, it’s a reminder of which outfits worked – even though they never saw the internet.
This outfit is still super current, even though the photo was taken about a year ago. In New York, I saw a ton of printed maxi dresses – the print is key -and for summer, they can be the easiest option to slip into when the temperature rises. To make it a little less boob-a-licious, I tossed a little silk vest over the top – it added structure, without adding extra weight or layers. It would also be great with a denim or chambray shirt. I like to pair with flat sandals or wedges, and big statement jewelry like this Tarina Tarantino necklace. To layer, I throw sweaters, little jackets, cardigans, and vests over this dress, as the weather dictates.
- Print maxi dress - Moda International
- Black silk vest – Amanda Uprichard
- Tarina Tarantino heart necklace
- Blue Lela Rose wedges from Payless
So, what were you wearing a year ago? How do you wear it now? Is it still current?
It seems, recently, the fashion-internet-atmosphere is electro-charged with debates about race, cultural theft and appropriation; vilifying both fat and skinny girls; whether or not the idea of “nude” colors in photo spreads feeds covert racism … the list goes on. Squeezed in between outrage inducing posts we find our fair share of trolls tearing apart both authors and commenters for liking or disliking an author’s content. I’ll admit, I’ve felt the need to talk about certain topics for my edification – and my readers have responded. Some have had nothing but positive input and others have called me “delusional”. I get to spend my day wondering just how helpful these posts are towards changing anything. I worry that my thoughts on any matter are going to elicit the screams of trolls who have, at hand, a multitude of insults ranging from name calling to visions of self grandeur. And one question begs answer – why are you coming here if you’re only coming to hate? Why even bother?
When it comes down to expressing your view on the internet, you’re preaching to a choir who already has an opinion, doesn’t care about much else, and has a list of mean-spirited reasons at-ready to tear you down with – including that set of outfit pictures you meticulously posed for. I know you’re shaking your head in disbelief, but this Slate article hit the nail right on top of its pretty little head:
It’s a prime example of the feminist blogosphere’s tendency to tap into the market force of what I’ve come to think of as “outrage world”—the regularly occurring firestorms stirred up on mainstream, for-profit, woman-targeted blogs … They’re ignited by writers who are pushing readers to feel what the writers claim is righteously indignant rage but which is actually just petty jealousy, cleverly marketed as feminism. These firestorms are great for page-view-pimping bloggy business. But they promote the exact opposite of progressive thought and rational discourse, and the comment wars they elicit almost inevitably devolve into didactic one-upsmanship and faux-feminist cliché. The vibe is less sisterhood-is-powerful than middle-school clique in-fight, with anyone who dares to step outside of chalk-drawn lines delimiting what’s “empowering” and “anti-feminist” inevitably getting flamed and shamed to bits. Paradoxically, in the midst of all the deeply felt concern about women’s sexual and professional freedom to look and be however they want, it’s considered de rigueur to criticize anyone… who dares to seem to want to sexually attract men.
I sit, reading that and recall several posts where, for example, fashion bloggers are torn down for choices, for outfits, and for the ever-increasing hot topics cropping up in the fashion world. (A good post on that? Check out Fashion Blogger Bashing on Grechen Blogs). Example: I’ve seen multiple comments about one certain blog – a prime example of jealous rage (for a great read on that – click here), stemming from insecurity and a sense of self righteousness. And no offense to Sister Wolf, here – who is often poignant or funny, this post just exemplifies my point about that one blog that often comes under fire.
… Instead of mimicking the old directly anxiety-making model—for example, by posting weight-loss tips and photos of impossibly thin models like a traditional women’s magazine—Jezebel and the Slate and Salon “lady-blogs” [among others - Birdie's emphasis...] post a critique of a rail-thin model’s physique, explaining how her attractiveness hurts women. The end result is the same as the old formula—women’s insecurities sell ads. The only difference is the level of doublespeak and manipulation that it takes to produce that result…
Oh yeah – being a small person, I get to read all those articles on how even naturally well-proportioned, beautiful models’ “attractiveness hurts other women” or that “Curves are In” and my body type isn’t. I happen to have been built small. I realize that real-life women are not necessarily angry at me because of my size, and that many women in reality could care less about the contents of my closet – but many “feminist” blogs play on this faux-outrage and women (including yours truly) sometimes fall for it. What’s worse are the bands of trolls who hop into the fray, with slurs of eating disorders, anorexia, illness, pretentiousness, selfishness, show-off; all vile words of hatred.
Evil words pontificate outrage on how an author is the bad guy for everything from being small, to wearing interesting looks others can’t afford, or liking ultra-high robo-geisha shoes. I’m supposed to be outraged at how people hate me. Readers are supposed to be outraged at how I don’t want to be hated – how I want to be me. The cycle begins, and pageviews soar.
It’s certainly important to have honest, open conversations about the issues that reliably rake in comments and page views—rape, underage sexuality, and the cruel tyranny of the impossible beauty standards promoted by most advertisers and magazines (except the ones canny enough to use gently lit, slightly rounder, older, or more ethnic examples of “true beauty”). But it may just be that it’s not possible to have these conversations online. On the Web, writers tend to play up the most jealousy- and insecurity-evoking aspects of controversy, and then anonymous commenters—who bear no responsibility for the effects of their statements—take the writers’ hints to any possible extreme. It’s just how the Internet works.
At the same time, many posts on these sites aren’t consciously written with the twisted mess of intentions I just described. Probably many of the writers feel that their work is helping women by exposing sexism and getting important women’s issues onto their radar. But especially for Jezebel writers, whose page-view-generating skills are a matter of public record, and whose careers are dependent on maintaining their stats, the pressure to continuously hit “outrage world” topics must be intense…
It makes me think about every time I’ve scrolled through comments on Slate, Jezebel, or any other “outrage inducing” blog post, reading the legions of comments ripping both the writer and each other to shreds. It’s like any decency one may have goes to hell as soon as they hit the next hot-button topic on the net. Of course, nameless and faceless makes all the more reason to speak out, right? And each outrage-inducing post plays into our dire need for self validation.
And while we’re crying outrage at a system that lets these hot-button topics and transgressions happen, while we’re out tearing each other apart instead of fostering intelligent discussion, we’ve become victims of a system that is subversively wielding our clicks and cash-flow, making money off our outrage. We’ve become part of a system that – instead of unifying – is slowly tearing itself apart, limb-from-limb in an attempt at feeble self-validation and monetary gain. (I have the feeling there’s going to be one person who says “This post is exactly what you’re complaining about.” The difference? I think pageviews are an unreliable measure of my success.)
How do we break this cycle of unintelligent criticism? Is it as simple as not judging and just accepting, and how do you teach an entire internet movement to be so civil? Is it worth putting our positive vibes and discussions out there? Do we refrain from participating in “outrage-world” and it’s inherent discontent – disengage from the wash of negative media offered by authors and trolls alike? Or is that simply “the way the Internet is” – a conscious problem to be considered, but ultimately ignored?
After 6 hours in Brooklyn I was ready to move. It won’t happen any time soon, but a girl can dream, right? I already have a few favorite places, and despite the SWELTERING HEAT, I’d say, “Girl, you’re alright with me!”
First things first – packing for NYC in June.
It’s been hot as hell here. For real.
Best idea? Collared Slouchy Tunic from Bellatrix (Nordstrom) - It hit like 97 the second day I was really *here*. And it was awful. But I felt cuter than I would have with just a cotton tank on – I layered this over one of my Spun tanks for instant cool. It was kind of nice because you couldn’t tell that I felt like swamp-thing underneath (read: did your antiperspirant give up? Don’t say anything and nobody will ever know!).
My first mistake was this: I looked at the same style top in natural fabric – silk. I chose this top for the style, but I wished I had gotten the natural fabric for how hot it was. I’m not sure it would have made a difference, though.
My second mistake was: TOO MUCH VOLUME! Not really thinking, I paired it with a black cotton maxi skirt, but I bought the top in a larger size than I probably needed – for volume – and I didn’t belt it. Not accessorizing it turned the entire outfit into a giant black/white column.
I’m sure it looked fine in person, but it didn’t photograph well. Oops. Note to self.
My third outfit mistake: The pavement here gets hot. And I wore sandals. I found out what happens when your thin-soled, gladiator style sandals hit the hot pavement – the heat seeps through. Cute? Yes. Practical? No. I ended up with hot spots on the bottoms of my feet (nothing a good sit, a drink, and some AC couldn’t fix).
I rate this outfit – cute, but needs improvement. But what do I know? What do you think?
Detail - Collared Slouchy Tunic from Bellatrix (Nordstrom), Black cotton maxi skirt (Nordstrom), White Sandals (AE). Cleves Ring (Wendy Brandes), Black and white geometric wood + resin bracelet (Paloma Picasso for Tiffany’s), Oversized sunglasses (Michael Kors), Bombata classic laptop case, Straw boater hat with chiffon flower (Brooklyn souvenir!).
Oh hi guys!
Recently, I had a note from the reps for Tiffany’s saying that the company has launched a new style in an alloy called “Rubedo”. I’ve been seeing this line all over the place – especially on campus (where I should be documenting all the fun style I’m seeing…)
But the thing that intrigued me about Rubedo wasn’t the new styles (though… OH WOW. I love some of the larger pieces) or the color (it’s really pretty) but the makers marks they’ve included on all the pieces. I’m a sucker for detail – especially vintage detail – and this year, for their 175th anniversary they’ve included Tiffany’s signature on their 1837 designs. How cool, right?!
The bangles are beautiful… and they have the locks that have been super popular in the last couple years. The piece I’ve been seeing the most is this 1837 ring – both in this large width and in a standard width. And I don’t know what it is about this rosy colored metal, but I like it (and I’m usually such a silver/platinum girl).
But this piece – the large cluster necklace was a showstopper!
And of course – I tried them on. The rep that I talked to mentioned that generally, bangles don’t fit every girl. However, if you’re like me, and your hands are pretty slim, you’ll probably be able to wear the Tiffany’s bangles, since they come in Small, Medium and Large. As a girl with slimmer hands, I found that these bangles don’t slide down over your hand (which can really hurt!). I like that they stay mostly on my wrist instead of creeping down my arm…
I really love the amazing detail – especially with the signature, since makers marks have always been fascinating to me.
Find out more about Rubedo at Tiffanys.com.
Disclosure: Nope! No gifts from Tiffany’s here – but I did get to go try on fancy jewelry, and I DO really like this collection.